A SEX+STL Testimonial from M

M is a woman in her 20’s… I heard that the SEX+STL community was a good, welcoming one, and I caught a glimpse of that warmth at the Topless Tea Party. It’s hard to find a group of women who are truly, truly kind, but everyone was. Really. The veterans were happy to include the […]

Why We Need Sex Ed – Fabulous Graphic

There’s a lot of talk about shutting down various reproductive rights in our country. This is based on fear and control coming from the patriarchy plaguing our society. (Patriarchy is the fear of the feminine and mature masculine.) These religious-based opinions are downright dangerous. Combating this ignorance are people like Jen and her team, who […]

So Thankful

Here is what I am thankful for this holiday season: 1. My extended family My entire family knows who I am, what I am about, and accepts me. I am surrounded by love. 2. My partner He knows me better than I do. He soaks up my anxieties and keeps me sane. He’s so magnificent, […]

(A)sexuality: The Making of a Movement

Oct 23-29 is Asexual Awareness Week! That’s right now! To celebrate, SEX+STL refrained from all sexual activity this week. Just kidding. Actually, we hosted a screening last week of the new documentary working the nationwide film festival circuit: Asexuality: The Making of a Movement. I like to joke that I’m the opposite of asexual. Does […]

Meet Vlad Drăculea, Asexual

In honor of Asexuality Awareness Week Oct 23-39, SEX+STL hosted a screening of the documentary Asexuality: The Making of a Movement last night. It was quite the mindbender! I’ll post my thoughts on it next week, but for now, get to know Vlad Drăculea. Kendra: What is asexuality? Vlad: Asexuality is a sexual orientation where […]

Intention, Attention and Awareness: Figuring out Consent, pt. 2

Because you, and the world, deserve our full presence, our full attention, our full passion, and our fully engaged awareness. ~Lee Harrington The much-delayed part 2 to my first Figuring out Consent post! I’m so excited about the July 16th Slutwalk in St. Louis. I won’t get to be there myself, but it has me […]

SEX POSITIVE: A Documentary About the Birth of Safer Sex

I just finished watching Sex Positive, a documentary about Richard Berkowitz, who (along with singer and activist Michael Callen and physician Joseph Sonnabend) is largely responsible for the safer sex movement as we know it. The film is probably most interesting because it’s complex. Berkowitz isn’t portrayed as a flawless hero and his fight […]

Shameless Grounds Opening Late February!

Ready for some great local news? A wife and husband team are going into business for the good of the community. Here is Andy Mueller giving us the scoop! Kendra Holliday: What’s this I hear about a sex-positive community center coffee shop opening up in St. Louis? Andy Mueller: Yes, you heard right. It’s called […]

Vanilla Whipped up Right

by Anna One criticism of the sex positive movement is that along with setting up the norm that people should be having sex, and that sex should be relatively unproblematic, it also, in an effort to be ‘pro-kink’ tends to set up the expectation that everyone has some kind of fetish, or at least a […]

Where do you draw your line? Is the grass better fertilized on the other side?

by Anna When people negotiate what they want to do in bed, or discuss what they like sexually, there’s usually talk about lines. There are lines that must not be crossed, lines ok for nudging and pushing and lines that move around with the time of the month. Some lines are just fences to keep anything […]